From inside the fishbowl…

Well, I have finally carved out my own miniscule spot on the great cavernous map of the world wide web.  I don’t know if anyone will find my little corner here, but for now I anticipate the challenge this new endeavor will provide for me.  Perhaps others will be encouraged along their own way as well.

Having served as  a pastor’s wife for 24 years,  my experiences can be described as everything from mundane to momentous.  Most fall somewhere in between and many of them are not exclusive to  parsonage life.   But for those of you who live the life of a pastor’s wife, I hope my ponderings will be like a friend to you, knowing there are others walking arm in arm down the same path with you.  For those of you who are not full-time ministry wives but are the ever-encouraging friends to us that we love and need, I hope these words open the door and draw you into our ministry lives in a new way.  To that end,  I begin this blog in the hopes of finding, connecting and encouraging my sisters in Christ in whatever role God has given you.

Over the years I have collected a few books written specifically for those who serve in the particular role of a pastor’s wife.   I have found these books to be insightful, encouraging and challenging.  However,  I have often felt something was missing, and I have come to believe it is the expressions of the real, normal, day-to-day living of our lives and how to make that fit with full-time ministry.   While I would love to say that my life has measured up to all that I have read in ministry books,  many times it has not, and I have come to accept the reality of this.   My heart tells me there are more of you out there who feel the same.    With that in mind,  here’s to a dose of reality from the parsonage.

I have always resisted the term “fishbowl” in relation to the life of a pastor’s family.  More on that later.   But for now,  as one who has lived my life, with its ups and downs,  failures and successes, great moments and weak moments, in full view of the congregation who has loved us for the past 20 years,  I write this from the fishbowl I have come to love and embrace.

About Deb Ashley

At home, Deb is the wife of Mark and mom of three adult children. She enjoys cooking, taking care of a small but somewhat productive garden, feeding the local community of birds and other assorted critters, and taking naps with her dog Mandy. Her passions include teaching, writing and music. In the community, Deb enjoys working alongside her husband in his role as a pastor. She is involved in teaching and encouraging women from all walks of life through book studies, counseling, and speaking opportunities.
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